Toddlers Without Tiaras

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Calling My Bluff … Potty Training Edition

Leading up to my daughter’s 3rd birthday we were in the home stretch of potty training.  We had two weeks of big girl underwear, dry bedtimes and naps, and dry outings.  We just needed to perfect the number 2’s, but the end was in sight.

Then, on her 3rd birthday, that she had 8 accidents in a 4 hour span.  We almost made it for 1 of the 8, having the accident at the base of the toilet.  She was just too excited to leave her party to take care of business.  I wasn’t phased by the events.  I assumed she would get back on track the next day.  Alas my naivety struck again.

I tried not to make a big deal out of the decline.  Baby #2 would be arriving soon and I was expecting a regression anyway.  Each morning I would give her the choice of whether she wanted to wear her pull-up or her underwear.  Her eagerness to wear underwear was gone.  She would choose the pull-up.

Fast forward six weeks – baby #2 is almost a month old, #1 is adjusting.  It is time to try a new tactic.  I’ve got it!  … One afternoon – after her nap – we sit down for a talk. As I’m cuddling her and stroking her hair, I ask …

Mom: “You are such a big girl!  Do you like being a big sister?”
C: “Yes!” (beaming ear to ear with a huge grin)
Mom: “Will you show your baby sister how to use the potty?”
C: “Yes!”
Mom: “Do you want to wear big girl underwear or do you want to wear your diapers?”
C: “Diapers!”
Mom: “Oh.  Are you sure?”
C: “Yes!”
Mom: [And this is where I thought I would be able to change her mind.] “Should we get rid of your underwear?”
C: “Yes!”

I wasn’t expecting “Yes!” as the answer.  I told her it was ok and we could get rid of her underwear.  A few weeks ago she would not have agreed to this.  I didn’t think anything of it.  Put a pull-up on her and went downstairs to start dinner.

Giving away her underwear

Giving away her underwear

A few minutes later I look up and see my daughter carrying a pile of something in her arms.  With a second glance I realize, in two trips, she had emptied her dresser of all of her underwear, carried it downstairs, and put it in her doll stroller (to give away).  She called my bluff!  Point for you kid!

Realizing she will continue to call my bluff in the future, I have created ‘THE BLUFF BOARD’ – a place for us to collectively track the success of our bluffs.




Wed, June 25 2014 » Potty Training

4 Responses

  1. Michelle June 25 2014 @ 7:08 pm

    That is priceless!! We can’t wait to see the next installment :).

  2. Children are funny June 25 2014 @ 10:29 pm

    It is now 10:30. Charlotte has been “going poo mommy” for almost 2 hours now. At present I would call this a draw. We are both standing our ground. I have to leave the room every time she pushes on her tummy to try to get the poo out – trying to convince me she should be allowed to continue to sit on the potty.

  3. Linds June 25 2014 @ 9:17 pm

    Umm…. I have so much to comment on but will keep it simple ….. Talk to your mom!! My mom always told me I was going to get it twice from each child then what I did….again talk to your mom! As my dad says….”the apple does not fall far from the tree”


  4. Children are funny June 25 2014 @ 10:21 pm

    If the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree I will have to be careful when she has her first sleepover. Hopefully the pushing her friends into hide-a-beds gene was not passed on.

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